Dear younger me,
A few words of wisdom from the future. Even though there is growing to be done in the journey, I do wish I could have shared some of these things with you.
Older me has learned a lot.
If there is anything keeping you up at night, go and deal with it right away. Running away from difficult conversations and possible confrontation seems like the easier path, but it really just ends up robbing you of your peace.
Don’t wish away any moments or seasons. Even if they feel hard and you don’t understand their purpose. Everything that happens in life is part of your story, and there is hope even in the middle of the greatest challenges.
Give yourself grace. You’ll never be perfect, or do everything right.
Love your family even when it gets messy. Family is where you’ve come from, and the legacy of what you leave behind. It’s never perfect, it’s usually complicated and it takes work. Love through all the chaos, show forgiveness and extend grace.
Learn that your value is not based on the reflection you see in the mirror, the size of your clothes or how you compare with others around you. Embrace who you are, and the unique gifts that only you have. Don’t let your self-perception rob your potential.
Don’t give into the denim overalls trend. (Remember the promise you made to yourself last time.)
Make it your goal to be known for your love. If you feel prompted to do something for someone, don’t hesitate. Surprise people with love when they least expect it. That’s beautiful joy.
There are going to be days when you walk through pain, and you won’t be sure if you’ll get to the other side of it. Press in, surround yourself with people to help lift you up and don’t give up. You are stronger than you know.
Take the lid off any limitations you or others have placed on your life. When you want to give up and you think your plans are ridiculous, remind yourself that you are no quitter and that you can do ALL things. Then, buckle in and do the work.
Learn to laugh when you have completely and awkwardly embarrassed yourself. This will happen a lot in your future so you might as well embrace it.
Don’t worry about what other people think about you. You can waste a lot of time thinking about what other people think, who likely aren’t even thinking about you at all.
Make time for yourself. Go sit on the beach. Drink all the coffee. Date your husband. Adventure with your kids. Watch the sunsets. Spend time with your friends.
Finally, be kind.
Say thank you.
Spend time with your Maker.
Live a life worthy of the calling you have received.
I wish I could have told you all this in the past, but it’s never too late for the future.
With much love,
Your older self.
I think I would share very similar things to my younger self. One of the valuable things I’ve learned is that I am not responsible for other people’s reactions. I would tell myself to forgive more quickly. I would tell myself that my identity is found in Christ alone and not in work or what I do. I’m very grateful for the lessons I have learned.
Those are good ones Lisa! xo
Love this and I agree whole heartedly with your “older self” advice!
Love this and it’s so true
Your older self is wise and we love you.
Judy and Gareth
Thanks, I love you guys back!
Loved reading this, and I totally agree with the denim overalls ?. I would also tell myself to care way less about what others think of me.
Yes!!! Thanks for reading, and agreeing on overalls – lol
I LOVE this letter. It is the entire truth of my life! I agree with every lesson. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much Dionne!